Wednesday, December 31, 2014
Most women find easy telling their partner anything about them or themselves and admit things that made them feel ashamed, but they won’t say a word when it comes to expressing their own sexual desire. Many women feel the same – they are in a horizontal position with their partner who knows his routine and they know their move and what comes after every step. They feel desperate and visualize their partner kissing or touching the parts of the body they want, but nothing happens. After the sex is finished they feel sorry that they didn’t say anything and promise to tell them the next time but fail once again.
It is good to mention that every relationship is different and it is very difficult to generalize what happens in someone’s bed, but some tips and advice can certainly help people overcome some psychological barriers that many women have about openness and confidence when it comes to engaging in sexual activities. It sounds almost unbelievable, but the fact is that most women don’t speak about their sexual desires with their partners mostly because they feel ashamed. By following some of these tips you can expect to enjoy sex more, but you should also be prepared to give something to your partner that you have never given before because chances are that your partner will express certain sexual desires.
Many women would love to experience oral sex, but they are afraid that their vagina smells or tastes bad. This is simply not true because the vagina secretes the same substances as the penis and this doesn’t stop men to ask for oral sex. Before you ask for oral sex make sure to remove excess hair from the genital area and maintain hygiene on a high level. Cleanliness and neatness will surely give you a lot more confidence and make your partner feel better down there. A subtle way to show your partner that you want oral sex is to take your partner’s finger in your mouth, lick it and place it between your legs.
More action in public
This doesn’t mean that some of you want to practice sex in public. This action is more than a regular sexual intercourse; it can involve more passionate kissing in a corner of a nightclub or hot dancing on a dance floor. Many men have trouble when it comes to relaxation in the public, but luckily there are few tips that can help you with that. For example, you can both drink some alcohol (not too much) in order to relax. Once you had a couple of drinks, wait for your favorite song and start dancing with your partner. Sex in a public place requires more boldness and there is no way to prepare your partner for this except a direct proposal (you can also decide to go outside without wearing underwear).
You want to be dominant
Don’t forget that sex is like a game. There are situations when you can lead the sex game while in other situations your partner will be the leader. If you want to be dominant it is a good idea to be the first one that initiates sex. Men will gladly leave their partner to be dominant if they were the ones that initiated sex. If during the sex act your partner wants to take the lead, tell him to relax and enjoy and let you be the one that will satisfy him.
Saturday, December 20, 2014
So many studies have been conducted to prove that smoking can give people heart disease, lung cancer and mouth and throat cancers as well. Similarly studies have also been conducted to show that people who smoke tend to have a lesser adventurous sex life than those who don’t especially when it comes to women. Often men do not stop their partners who smoke as they do not think much about the hazards of smoking. Some like it as they too are smokers and some do not mind it as they find it attractive. However studies have shown that a smoking partner can affect the health of the other over a period of time.
Smoking is harmful for many parts of our body like the heart, lungs, mouth, throat, arteries and blood vessels. Smoking is the known cause for impotence as studies have shown that 40% of the men suffer from impotence caused by smoking. It has the same affect on women as well. Women too suffer from fertility issues because of smoking. Smoking can cause decreased sexual desire function in women as well which translates into decreased interest in sex. Therefore smoking can harm the sex life of a couple for sure over a period of time. So people might want to know if there is a way out. Then yes, definitely there is a way out.
The first step is to cease smoking immediately. If both partners are smoking then the affect of smoking together puts them both at twice the risk of getting sick. However, if both want to quit then one can support the other and vice versa when it comes to abstinence from smoking. They can actually look out for each other when the craving to smoke returns. Similarly if only the woman is addicted to smoking then it becomes the male’s prerogative to help her get rid of the habit duly.
There are many couple therapy sessions that are conducted by AA groups to help them understand the benefits of non smoking and the hurdles that they might face when a partner stops smoking.
When the woman in the relationship stops smoking there are many changes in her behavior that the man should be aware of and be ready for. The first side effect is the changing mood swings. She will feel moody, depressed and nervous most of the time in the early days. The withdrawal symptoms can be irritation, anger, confusion, inability to concentrate and sadness. However these last for a short period of time during which women need tremendous support from their partners to stay on the wagon as they say.